Written by Kate Billing, Co-founder & Thought Leader, Blacksmith

The relationship we have with ourselves is the single longest relationship we have with anyone in our lives.

  • Yet how much time, energy and attention do we give to it?
  • Is it a healthy relationship that we number amongst our best?
  • Or is it neglected, unhealthy or even self-violent?

I’ve been running my ‘Tune In: Unlocking the Power of Self-talk’ 1-day workshop around New Zealand for a year now. With every session it becomes clearer and clearer to me that the need for this kind of personal leadership development work is enormous. Regardless of gender, culture, level of apparent success or leadership position, everyone is struggling.

Disconnection from ourselves, an over active inner critic and ‘fake news’ storylines in our heads based on expectation and comparison are at the root of so much suffering and lost potential.

Individually and collectively they are impacting our mental health and wellbeing, our ability to connect with others and therefore our relationships (at work and at home), and our contributions within the workplace (cooperation, collaboration, innovation, creativity, engagement, growth and development, change agility and performance).

Check out this short video I recorded after a recent Tune In session with Genesis Energy. It’s had over 7000 views on Linked In and prompted a lot of conversation and interest.

With Mental Health Awareness Week happening in NZ from 8-14 October I want to make it easier for more people to get access to this important development.

With that in mind I’m pleased to be making the following special offers so that you can begin to change the conversation you have with yourself and offer that opportunity to more of your people.


1) The Men’s Edition Public Workshop – 13 November 2018 (Auckland)

  • Tickets for this session are available for the reduced investment of $500 (including GST and booking fee) – simply use the code OCTOBER when booking before 31 October.
  • There are TWO sponsored places available on this workshop for men working in leadership roles in registered charities or NFPs whose organisational purpose is connected to improving men’s health and wellbeing.  Apply by emailing paul@blacksmith.co.nz with a) your name, b) the name of your registered charity or NFP and its purpose/mission in the men’s health and wellbeing space and c) tell us why you’d love to get a day of personal leadership development for yourself

2) 2019 Public Tune In Workshops – $295 reduction until 31 October 2018

I have THREE public workshop dates up for 2019 (see below) and am offering a reduced investment of $500 (including GST and booking fee) for all registrations made before the end of October – simply use the code OCTOBER when booking.

**If the workshop of your choice is booked out please email paul@blacksmith.co.nz to be wait-listed for future dates

3) 2019 In-house Tune In Workshops – book 2019 dates before 14 December and take advantage of 2018 pricing

I have a number of major projects lining up for 2019 and I’m keen to ensure organisations wanting to run Tune In as part of their 2019 development program have the opportunity. With that in mind, and as an added incentive to get a plan in place, book your 2019 workshop dates in before 14 December and you will only pay the 2018 investment. There is an additional concession available for organisations booking 10 sessions or more.

For more information download this 2 page overview and CONNECT with Paul to explore running Tune In as an in-house offering for your organisation (remember, book before 14 December and you’ll only pay the 2018 investment) – paul@blacksmith.co.nz or +64 (0)21 871 968


What others have to say about ‘Tune In: Unlocking the Power of Self-Talk’:

“It is rare, in this late stage of my career, that I find anything that inspires me to change the way I look at or think about others and myself.  Tune In was just that. I think having it ‘men only’ was a great move – it was a safe environment for us all and I think without fail the group were all inspired to adopt some part of the advice and insights that Kate provided.” David Hayman, Test Practice Manager, Genesis Energy

“Yesterday I had the absolute pleasure of attending Kate Billing ‘s Tune-In workshop for women in Auckland. Her ability to get a group of women, most of whom didn’t know each other, to be open and vulnerable was beautiful to be a part of. Kate generously shared her personal story, which encouraged us to be honest and often quite vulnerable, within the safe space she created. Comments at the end of the day included “this has changed my life”.” Mel Kettle, Author of ‘The Social Association’, Speaker & Mentor on Communication, Engagement and Social Media

“I recently attended ‘Tune In – Unlocking the Power of Self Talk’ with Kate Billing. Anyone that has attended workshops facilitated by Kate will know how amazing she is – her openness, genuine interest in understanding what makes people tick and her phenomenal knowledge and passion for her craft put her in a league of her own. Tune In was particularly well timed for me, having recently returned to work full time after being on parental leave and feeling conflicted about my changing role. Throughout the day I identified my ‘inner critic’, what they were saying and put in place some strategies to start changing the dialogue. It was an immensely rewarding day. I highly recommend it.” Abi Cameron, Manager Captial & Governance, Vodafone NZ